Your Biggest Compliment

Compliments are something both men and women desire and enjoy getting. From "Gee, you smell great!" to "Thanks - just for being you," compliments make us feel good about ourselves ... especially when they come from those we care about the most.

It is kind of strange to think the biggest and best comment you could possibly give someone is also most often overlooked. In fact, some would think it an insult at first blush, though it is so much more than that.

What is the greatest compliment you could give or receive? Simple.

It is “I don't need you.”

Now hold on a second. Don't go off thinking I've completely lost it. I realize you may be thinking I'm nuts, but give me two minutes to explain and I promise you'll change your mind.

Yes, I know someone somewhere said "All people want to feel needed," but that isn't exactly true. The truth is, all people want to feel wanted.

See, a "need" is something a person *must have* in order to live, to survive. And while I get that many of us sometimes feel we wouldn't be able to make it through the days and weeks without that special someone by our side, the truth is - we could.

Now think of this: are you with your current partner because you feel you couldn't survive without them because they take care of things you can't or won't do or provide things you don't feel you can get on your own?

Or are you with your partner because although you know you could and would survive without them, you want them in your life simply because you love them?

In the first example, it is possible your partner might soon begin to think you only wanted them around for what they could bring or give - such as a paycheck.

I couldn't tell you how many men I've heard say their wives only stayed with them for the money.

Or sex. Again, I've heard many, many women complain that their partner only kept them around for sex.

Which would you rather have in your life? Someone who wanted you for what you could give/bring? Or someone who wants you for *you* - no strings, no conditions?

That's why I say the biggest, most grand compliment you could give or be given is to love for love's sake and nothing else.

“I don't need you – but I love you.”

What do you think?