Why You Arent Getting What You Want Out Of Your Relationship

Think your relationship is going south? Feel like you're not getting what you should, what you need from your partner? Maybe you're even feeling a bit scared there's no possible way to bring things back on track?

If you've ever taken a look at your relationship and thought, "This just isn't working out," it is possible your relationship has become a victim of EWC.

EWC stands for Expectation Without Communication, and it's one of the really BIG, and most common reasons people have problems in their relationships. My guess would be that EWC is actually one of the top three causes of relationship trouble, with the other two being dishonesty and infidelity.

Not to worry, however. EWC can be overcome.

How? Through accurate and honest communication with your partner about your wants, needs, and desires concerning your relationship. See, the plain fact of the matter is, if you want something from someone, but you don't tell them you want it, guess what?

They Don't Know.

Most people are not blessed with having ESP or a developed mind-reading capacity. Your partner cannot read your mind. Further, most of us aren't "hip" to gestures and signals otherwise known as Body Language.

If you want something specific out of your relationship, there is simply no way around it. You are gonna have to tell your partner exactly what you expect from him or her. You need to clarify, in specific detail, exactly what it is you desire.

If you can't be bothered to tell your partner what you really want, you have no right to expect them to guess, and then get mad when they do not or cannot. Instead, take an hour or two to sit down with your partner and talk.

Clear the air. Get things out in the open. Let your partner know you've been feeling you aren't getting what you need from the relationship.

Tell him or her you realize the problem is EWC and that you'd like to help him (or her) be able to provide what you expect from the relationship by explaining your expectations … and be sure you give your partner the chance to do the same.

You might be surprised at the difference this makes in your relationship. Try it today.