Some Tactics For Getting To Know Someone:

Learn the art of conversation and make yourself apply it.

* Always introduce yourself and make it short. Nobody likes a long preamble. Then ask a short question like "and what is your name?" "What do you do?"
* If it is a girl, notice something pretty they are wearing and compliment her.
* If you are at a party offer to get her a drink, it does not have to be alcohol
* Of course asking her for a dance is a classic tactic

In many countries it is still customary, for the boy to make the first move. This makes it easier for a girl but harder for the boy. Eye contact and a smile go a long way. Try to find an icebreaker and have a few questions ready before you start to talk. Try to find an interesting topic of conversation. There are often a few current events that are interesting to talk about.

Above all stay away from topics like politics or religion. These are volatile topics and can get you in all sorts of trouble and will not help you to form a good relationship with someone. Choose your recipient well before you start talking about sports as many people especially girls will not be interested in this topic and you do not want to bore them

Stop worrying about mistakes before they happen. One of the big problems that prevent you from conquering your shyness is worrying about things before they happen. The more you worry the less you will be able to function, and you will destroy your confidence like this.

Learn to laugh at yourself. It is very important to in life and forming a good relationship to cultivate a sense of humor. This is a big thing with shy people the fear of being ridiculed. When you start to see the humor in situations you will gradually learn how to laugh at yourself and get over this fear.

So break out of your zone and start to take the first steps towards others. You will find that you have come a long way to building a good relationship with another person.